by Guest Blogger, Christina Plunkett, WPICC of Something White Wedding Coordination
During the planning process, the groom’s role is frequently overlooked. After all, isn’t a wedding made up of all the frilly, girly things the bride has dreamed up since she was a child? Not exactly. Though this is true in some cases, the groom often wants more say than is expected. A wedding is a day for both the bride and the groom, so both parties should have some input. Am I saying the groom should be left to his own devices when it comes to choosing the flowers? Absolutely not. But, there are many things the groom can do to contribute to the wedding and minimize the bride’s stress in the meantime.
Attire The groom does not see the bridal gown (usually!) until she is walking towards him down the aisle, so why can’t the groom’s tux be a surprise for you as well? Trust your groom to choose his own tux, and even the groomsmen’s tuxes, and he will feel like he has contributed to an important part of your wedding. Of course, if he’s the kind of groom who needs some guidance, make suggestions about colour.
Food The most important features of a wedding, in most cases, is the food. This should be a joint decision. Both you and the groom should work out the perfect menu for your event. The groom may even have some excellent suggestions about food that you may not have thought of. You know what they say: the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. So, let him be a part of it.
Transportation This is one aspect of the wedding that the groom may feel passionate about, and it is hard to mess up. Set out a budget and requirements for transportation together and let him seek out the perfect vehicle to escort you on your day.
Disc Jockey The DJ can make or break the party. Often, the groom cares most about how much fun the party will be; the DJ is one thing he could get excited about. He is capable of seeking out the right DJ for your reception so let him have the responsibility (with your final approval of course!). If you want to be involved you can go to the meeting as a couple, but give him some room to take the lead with negotiation.
Keep the bride happy Planning a wedding is a very stressful time and the majority of the stress lands on the bride. Remind your groom that he needs to be kind and gentle with you during the process. Happy wife, happy life! Of course, it would be even easier if this were mutual (wink).
Choosing the certified wedding planner The planning process will be even less stressful with the help of a certified wedding planner. It is important to choose one that you are comfortable with and whom you feel understands the vision for your day. Both you and the groom should be involved with choosing the planner. She / He should be in the same page as both the bride and the groom.
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